Online Therapy in California for Anxiety, Trauma & Relationship IssuesLasting Change Starts here
You're Not Alone in ThisThis Isn’t Traditional Therapy. And That Matters
You're looking to get to the root of the problem and achieve real change.
You’re Here Because
You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Maybe you've even been to therapy before. You're successful in many areas of your life, but when it comes to relationships, boundaries, and anxiety, you feel stuck in the same painful cycle.
Imagine if...
You trusted yourself.
You stopped apologizing for taking up space.
You could set boundaries without guilt.
Your relationships felt safe instead of exhausting.
You no longer carried the weight of your childhood into every new relationship.
Real change is possible - And you don't have to figure it out alone.
Many of the people I work with come to me after trying other approaches that didn’t quite get to the root of what they were experiencing. They may have spent years in therapy, done deep self-healing work, or been referred by a trusted therapist or doctor. If that resonates with you, please know you’re not alone, and there are still options.
You deserve real relief, and I’m here to help you find it.
meet your therapist
I help clients break the patterns that keep them stuck
Hi, I’m Esma, a holistic therapist. My clients are thoughtful, capable people who are tired of surface-level solutions. They don't want someone to simply listen and nod. They want a therapist who can help them understand what's driving their patterns, and more importantly, help them create lasting change.
My approach is both direct, and nurturing. I won’t shy away from difficult conversations. I’ll help you get beneath the surface and start making real changes. You’ll feel supported and challenged with care and compassion. I believe both are necessary for growth.
I know why I do this... I just can't seem to stopInsight Isn't Always Enough
One of the most common things I hear is, "I know why I do this... I just can't seem to stop."
Knowing where your patterns come from is important, but insight alone doesn't always create change. Healing happens when we work with the parts of you that learned those patterns in the first place—so you're no longer reacting from old survival strategies, but responding from a place that feels calmer, more grounded, and more like yourself.
My specialtiesI help clients change patterns that keep them stuck.
Breaking Relational Patterns
People-Pleasing
Over-Functioning
Difficulty Setting Boundaries
Codependency
Love Addiction
Limerence
Complex Trauma & Childhood Wounds
Complex Trauma (C-PTSD)
Parentification
Enmeshment
Developmental Trauma
Emotional Neglect
Anxiety & Nervous System Healing
High-Functioning Anxiety
Health Anxiety
Relationship Anxiety
Chronic Overthinking
Hypervigilance
Nervous System Dysregulation
Unhealthy Relationships
Trauma Bonds
Fear of Intimacy & Fear of Being Alone
Situationships
Chronic Infidelity Patterns
Communication & Conflict
Dysfunctional Family Systems
Emotional Manipulation
Guilt-Tripping
Family Estrangement
Family Roles
Intergenerational Patterns
Breaking Generational Cycles
Attachment Healing
Anxious Attachment
Avoidant Attachment
Disorganized Attachment
Repeating Unhealthy Relationship Cycles
Childhood Wounds
Inner Child Healing
Mother Wounds & Mother Hunger
Father Wounds
Secure Love
Healing from Toxic Relationships
Moving On After a Breakup
Opening Up to Healthy Love
this is a place for youLife Can Feel Different
I believe therapy should do more than help you understand yourself. It should help you create real change.
Over time, clients often notice changes that show up in their everyday lives. They may start setting boundaries without feeling as guilty, spend less time overthinking, trust themselves more, and feel calmer in their relationships. Many begin recognizing unhealthy patterns sooner, communicating their needs more openly, and making choices that feel right for them instead of always putting everyone else first.
Healing doesn't mean you'll never struggle again. It means those old patterns no longer run the show, and you feel more confident responding to life's challenges in a way that aligns with the person you want to be.
Therapeutic ModalitiesA Holistic Approach
I don't use just one approach. I pull from multiple modalities based on what the moment calls for.
Brainspotting
A powerful, brain-body approach that accesses unprocessed trauma and emotional material by using your visual field to locate and process "brainspots" — points where the body holds activation. It bypasses the thinking brain to access what talk therapy often can't reach
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
ACT helps build psychological flexibility and move toward values-based living rather than fear-driven or reactive patterns.
Internal Family Systems
IFS works with the “parts” of you. The protector who people pleases, the inner critic who won’t shut up, the exile carrying old pain. We get to know them, understand their role and update them to the present.
CBT and DBT
Evidence-based frameworks that build concrete skills — identifying thought patterns, developing distress tolerance. I draw on these as needed, woven into the deeper relational work.
Somatic Therapy
Your body keeps the score. Somatic work means paying attention to what your nervous system is doing — the tightness, the numbness, the activation — and using that information as a doorway into deeper processing.
Relational Self-Awareness (RSA)
RSA helps you understand how attachment patterns, family systems, relational histories, and unconscious beliefs influence your relationships. This work supports greater accountability, differentiation, emotional intimacy, and self-awareness.
as you heal your relationships changeYou're Not Attracted to What's Healthy Until It Feels Safe
One of the hardest parts of healing is realizing that we're not always drawn to what's healthiest for us—we're often drawn to what's familiar.
Whether you find yourself chasing emotionally unavailable partners, carrying the weight of everyone else's needs, or feeling guilty for setting boundaries with family, these patterns rarely develop by accident. They're often the ways your mind and body learned to find love, connection, or safety.
The good news is that familiar doesn't have to become your future. As you heal, your relationships begin to change—not because you force yourself to be different, but because what feels safe starts to change too.
Services
Break the patterns. Heal at the root.
resourcesPractical Insights For Deeper Healing
Take the First StepImagine what becomes possible when old patterns no longer define you.
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